Women's Bible Study

Hi Everyone! I started this community http://biblicalwomen.livejournal.com/ and I would love to get some members! As often as I can, I will be posting bible studies for women, about women in the bible! Recently, I have been going through the book of Ruth! Each lesson also comes with some questions that you can answer and discuss with other members of the community. (If this is not appropriate please remove this post! I am new here and dont quite know the rules yet!) I posted this to this page specifically because I know that the members of this group are Christian women and would positively contribute to discussion. Thank you everyone!

I am a Grandmother

Being a Grandmother has been very exciting. It is still being a parent times 2. My grandchildren live with me and my husband and he has been a trooper. I love having them with me. It is like getting a 2nd chance at parenting.
My grandson is 2 and my granddaughter is 9 months on the 23rd. My grandson is a bit challenging. Like right now as I am typing this out, he keeps drinking his milk, but then let it run out of his mouth, even though I have asked him to stop.
My granddaughter is full of smiles and laughter, but she is learning to throw tantrums. Thanks to her brother.
I have been learning to be a housewife, and grandmother at the same time.
It is a great journey, I would not trade it for the world. I thank God daily for the opportunity.
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Christian Single

Hello to all, I am a 26 year old christian women, In July of 2009 I was baptized and now I am born again. I will start dating soon, and I needed some advice on how to date the christian way. What are the places I should avoid, or how far I should go, I want to do the right thing for God. I am not a virgin so I know what goes on with people that are in a relationship in my age. I have the word of God to guide me, but I also think real people's advice would be great too.
So anyone have some good advice
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Hello Lovelyhearts!

Hi, my name is Erika. I'm 22, a full-time student, and a writer. My husband and I live in a small cottage right outside of Dallas, Texas with our fur-baby named Snoopy. Snoops (as we like to call him) is a hyperactive beagle that loves chewing on my favorite pair of shoes, sleeping in dad's clothes, and eating paper towels, which he finds to be delicious.

We got married on October 9th in a ceremony that was very low-key, casual, and lovely. Saul, my husband, is a software/gaming programmer and a web developer. He previously did some work in Santa Monica and was actually nominated for 3 emmy awards for theatrical production and art directing. I am a former associate buyer that recently decided I have had my fill of corporate America and quit my job. Now I'm a full-time student and housewife. Together my husband and I are working on starting our own business that I'll manage from our studio at home.

Since I'm at home all day, most of my time is spent in front of the computer working (and facebook'ing and lj'ing) when I'm not cleaning or beating myself up for eating something I probably shouldn't have. El-jay is totally my guilty pleasure. And, though I'm probably not the best blogger in the world, in the evenings I like to sit with tea and popcorn and catch-up with everyone.

My husband is a very gifted and talented musician that can play almost every instrument there is. He also writes music and sings. I am a singer/songwriter. I'm not active in the music ministry just yet (I'm not completely confident in my ability), but he is a former worship leader. We have a home church but travel and minister when given opportunities to do so. He has a heart for children and I have a heart for everything. Hillsong's song "Solution" has lyrics the describe my heart for God perfectly:

"Solution" by Hillsong
Fill our hearts with Your compassion as we hold to our confession.

Only You can mend the broken heart and cause the blind to see;
erase complete the sinner's past and set the captives free.
Only You can take the widow's cry and cause her heart to sing;
be a father to the fatherless, our saviour, and our king.

We will be Your hands. We will be Your feet.
We will run this race for the least of these.
In the darkest place, we will be Your light.
We will be Your light."

We our firm believers of James 2:8. The ministry that God has given my pastors has invested in our lives and taught us that we should show no respect of persons and treat everyone the same. Our church sits in the middle of a drug infested neighborhood and it's not uncommon to see pimps and prostitutes walking up and down the street. If a prostitute or someone addicted to and high on drugs walks into our church, no one treats them any differently than we treat each other. We're a big family and we're all about spreading the love of God while refraining from dry-dead religious tradition and bondage.

I am a people person and I never meet a stranger. I'm looking to meet new friends on here, if anyone is interested.

Looking forward to getting to know you more. . .

Much love,
Ben and Tim

Just getting my thoughts out

Dave is in the kitchen baking me a birthday cake and he keeps coming out to his computer to look at bikes on craigslist and I just woke up from a nap and was thinking while feeding Timothy about the passage we discussed in bible class this morning about wives and husbands submitting and being considerate to each other.

The teacher basically brushed off 'wives submit to your husbands' as a cultural thing and talked about how his mom buttered his dad's bread and got up at 3am everyday with him to make him breakfast...and how his wife's dad made breakfast for her mom before he left for work and woke her up as he was leaving...and that both were demonstrations of love in a marriage and basically what the passage was calling for. Just do whatever works for you in your marriage.

After class Dave and I talked about it...someone on my facebook list had posted this video which we had watched together last night wherein the preacher implies that sometimes we get too deep into 'cultural studies' to try and excuse ourselves from the simple meaning stated in a passage (in the video it is "it is hard for the rich to enter the kingdom of God") so Dave and I were talking about how maybe the wives submitting shouldn't just be shrugged off.......and he mentioned how he knows that the house that we live in wasn't my first choice and I would have been just as happy or happier not putting an offer in on it...but that I said ok when he wanted to. And I mentioned that, yeah, I guess I 'submitted' in that case, but I didn't do it because of Dave's position as "the husband"...I did it because he really loved the house; and it was close to where he works and it was important to both of us for him to not have too long a commute; and because although he didn't really want a fixer-upper and this was one, I knew that most of the "fixing" would fall on him. Then we got where we were going and the conversation moved on to another topic.

In class our teacher had talked about husbands being considerate to their wives as the weaker partner and how that isn't saying the lesser partner at all, just the guys tend to be physically stronger than girls and it is something that they alway have to take into account as they deal with their wives, that they are stronger physically and they need to be conscious of the fact in order to not abuse their strength...not use it to get what they want. I made a comment about how both sections of the passage are really talking to temptations that husbands and wives have to deal with...I don't have to worry about overpowering Dave--he's got 50 lbs on me :-p--but I do have to worry about manipulating him because I know he'll let me get away with just about anything ;-). Submitting to him is putting my faith---submitting to God--into practice. The teacher agreed, and said that we all like to be in control and it was a definite issue within marriages. (An aside, when talking about the husband side the teacher mentioned that no guy would make it to 70 {his age? possibly} without ever slipping up and using their physical stature in an abusive way...it made me think of basically the only time in Dave and my relationship that the fact that he really is stronger than me became an issue...I think it was freshman year of college, so within our first year of dating, and we were having a ticklefest and it got to be too much for him and he wrapped me in a hug and held my wrists so that I couldn't get him anymore and I became acutely aware of the fact that if he didn't want me to be able to get away I really wouldn't be able to. It was scary. I told him to let me go and he did and we talked about it and I let him know how I felt and I've never had another experience like that in the 8 years we've been together. I would say that Dave is really good at being considerate toward me as the weaker partner.)

So as I was feeding Tim after my nap I was thinking about how if they had used the same phrase for women as for men, and said for wives to be considerate to their husbands then there wouldn't be anyone up in arms about that...everyone basically agrees that spouses should be considerate to each other. And as Christians we are supposed to put each other first...but we don't like being lumped together and given advice based on our gender.(Ephesians 5:21-33 was also in my head here) If you say "Monika, be considerate to Dave, put him first; Dave, be considerate to Monika, put her first" I think we both would go "yeah, that's good advice that we need to take to heart, I try to do that but could always do a better job, how about some specific advice for the parts that I struggle with?"...whereas if you say "Monika, submit to Dave" I go, "wait! what? what's that mean? stop being myself and just do everything his way?? I can't do that! why should I even have to?" The teacher mentioned a 'nugget of truth' which was something along the lines of "be the kind of husband worthy of submission and your wife will submit" or something like that, which still rubbed me wrong, and I realized in my drowsy thinking why...it still sort of implies that submission has something to do with the guys. And I don't think it should. The advice that a wife should submit to her husband does not at all give a husband the moral ground to exert power over his wife (which I think is what Peter's advice to the husbands was trying to say). He can't make her submit. He isn't supposed to try. He isn't supposed to even want to. It is her act of faith that she chooses or not. I've heard more than once that what 'submitting' in marriage means is that you generally make decisions as a team but if push comes to shove and the two of you disagree and a decision has to be made then you go with the husband's choice...and Dave and I have never done that. We have disagreed. We have made decisions that one person was happier with than the other. We have pushed decisions off to the future that we still haven't come to a consensus on (e.g. schooling). But never once has he said "well, I'm the husband, we need to go with my choice" and never once have I said it. When I can put him first I do, when he can put me first, he does. And that's how it should be.

So that was my epiphany of the day. And it's my birthday :D.

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Hello to all of the christian wives community!!

I am so happy to see some recent activity on this wonderful journal.   I would just like to remind everyone of the two rules posted.  
One tiny rule: This is a place for your thoughts and feelings, so please refrain from posting email forwards, memes, or any other such "borrowed" material. If you feel the need to share something that affected you greatly, please post it in your own journal and share the link only.

One huge rule: While everyone in this community shares a basic belief in Christ as their Saviour, we will inevitably not all agree on every aspect of theology. You may share your opinions and disagreements, but please be loving and tolerant in doing so.

I had to take down a couple posts recently because they conflicted with the posted rules. 
I'm sorry for any inconvenience this might have caused. 
This is a great community and I would love to see it active again.  Please continue posting and have a great day!!!
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Nosy questions:



What is the husband's role in your relationship/marriage... I mean his God given role. If he is the spiritual leader? What does that mean to you, to him? If he is called to sacrifice - sacrifice what?



Marriage Help - Challange Below

My post this morning was going to be completely different (in my personal journal).  It was going to be the exact thing the article below speaks against… amazing how God works! There’s a challenge below – it’s never too late to start, even if you’re reading this at dinner time. Let me know how you did and I will reply and let you know how it worked out for me as well!


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How's Your Marriage?

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Application Steps:

Commit to having a daily quiet time with God each day this week.

How can I make a difference in my relationships?

Could it be me who needs to change?

Power Verses:
Galatians 6:9, "So let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up." (NLT)

Mark 11:24-25, "I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you've received it, it will be yours. But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too." (NLT)

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616-G Matthews-Mint Hill Road, Matthews, NC 28105
877-P31-HOME (877-731-4663)

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another nosy question

I asked my husband the other night: "how can you make the right spiritual decisions for our lives, when you don't know where I am spiritually?" His answer – he believes your walk with Christ is personal…
Not really an answer to my question I think – but my question to you is:

In your marriage does your husband check in with you after service? Or randomly about your walk, Bible reading, book reading, or prayer life? If he doesn’t do you wish he would?

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